Wedding Vow Ideas to Truly Inspire
There are few words you can write or say that will ever mean more than your wedding vows. If you find yourself agonising over exactly what to write, you’re not alone, because almost everyone does. That’s why so many people stick with tried and tested traditional vows!
What Kind of Wedding Vows Can You Write?
There are three key categories: funny wedding vows, serious wedding vows and romantic wedding vows. You can pick one or use elements of all three categories. The one you choose depends on what kind of wedding you’re having and what your significant other might like.
Below are some inspirational ideas for vows of all different kinds. Whether you want to be heartfelt and meaningful, or whether it’s more ‘you’ to pop in a joke or two, you’ll find something to get your creative cogs turning…
What Kind of Wedding Vows Should I Write?
Your wedding vows are some of the most meaningful words you’ll ever say and you’ll be saying them in front of a crowd, too! They’re supposed to be heartfelt and on the wedding day you’ll feel all sorts of crazy emotions. So, it’s little wonder that people so easily get stuck searching for the perfect words.
But don’t worry; if your big day is coming up soon you’ve got enough to worry about as it is! Let’s start by thinking of the basics
What Kind of Vows Can You Write for a Wedding?
There are three kinds of vows you might want to write. These are serious wedding vows, romantic wedding vows, and funny wedding vows. You might feel that one is more appropriate for you than the others, you might want to include both funny and romantic elements in the same vows, the choice really is yours. Today, there’s far less etiquette necessary than there used to be. You can write any vows that you want, provided you’ll be comfortable saying them in front of everyone.
So, without wasting any more time, let’s take a look at some ideas that you can incorporate into your own vows. We’ve divided the vows into the three categories above. Each section contains several ideas you can build your vows around, and then an example to tie everything together at the end.
Ideas for Serious Wedding Vows
By ‘serious’, we don’t mean stony-faced. Rather, ‘serious’ refers to the grandeur of the occasion and the respect you’re showing towards your partner.
Say your wedding is being held in a church, there are lots of people attending, and the entire event is formal. While you want your vows to reflect your personal feelings, you also want them to match seamlessly with the rest of your big day. You can’t go wrong with a vow like this.
The Traditional Wedding Vows are a Great Starting Point:
“I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.”
Most serious vows are based on or inspired by these words. So, for example:
In the name of God, I, ___, take you, ___, to be my husband/wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.
You’re free to add things to or take things away from these vows as you wish. However, serious vows are quite formulaic and usually follow the pattern above. And if you want to offer serious vows, keep the language formal.
Here are a few tips:
• Avoid contractions (e.g. ‘haven’t’, or ‘won’t’)
• Avoid cliches and common phrases, because these make your vows sound less formal and less genuine
• Avoid anything that might make either your partner or the audience uncomfortable
If you feel that this is too constraining, but that you don’t want to write informal vows, consider having your own private ceremony at home before the wedding. Surprising numbers of people are doing that these days!
Ideas for Romantic Wedding Vows
Romantic wedding vows are, of course, the Holy Grail. If you could pen something heartfelt and loving, your partner will remember what you said forever. But not all of us are born with a flair for poetry, or the romantic mind of Shakespeare.
Here are a few ideas that will give you somewhere to start. Feel free to use them, use bits of each one, or rewrite them any way you like!
1) _____, I take you to be my lawfully wedded husband/wife. Before everybody gathered here, I vow to love you, care for you and protect you as long as we both shall live.
I take you and accept you, with all your faults and strengths, as I offer myself to you with all my faults and strengths. Whenever you need a friend, a partner or a lover, you can turn to me and find me there. In turn, I hope to turn to you and find you there. You are my everything; I choose you as the person with whom I will spend my life.
2) _____, today I will marry you: my best friend, my one, my only and my everything. I vow to love you forever as my husband/wife. From this day forward, I vow to cherish all that you are, and I pray that you will do the same for me. Knowing that we will walk life’s path together, side by side and hand in hand, is all I will ever need.
3) _____, you are everything that I want, and all that I need. If I could shape and mould the ideal partner, I would make them kind and loving, funny, charming, and beautiful. But in all my efforts I could never come close to what I’ve found in you. Today, I vow that I will entwine my future path with yours forever, and I pray that you want the same. I love you.
4) _____, I choose you. I vow to stand by your side through all of life’s troubles, and to sleep in your arms at the end of each day. I promise to bring you nothing but joy, to laugh with you through life’s good times and bad. I promise to respect you, to cherish you and to encourage you; and through it all, to grow old with you.
5) I, _____, take you, ______, to be my wedded husband/wife. I promise you my love, my fullest devotion, and my tenderest care. I pledge to you my life as a loving and faithful husband/wife.
If these don’t do it for you, stick to the classics. Vow to:
• Love your partner
• Respect your partner
• Treat your partner with kindness
• Encourage your partner in whatever they want in life
• Grow old with your partner
• Be faithful to your partner
Where you can, build on these vows with romantic language and you can’t go wrong.
Ideas for Funny Wedding Vows
Funny vows can be hit or miss. There are two reasons why: something that we think is funny might not be funny to other people. But more importantly, the person you’re giving the vows to might not appreciate jokes when they want to hear you be serious. So, the use of funny vows is left to the discretion of the reader…
1) I promise to never take my hangover out on you, and to make you a Full English when you’re hungover too.
2) I promise to never demand any of what you order at a restaurant.
3) I promise to forgive your indiscretions, and to take classes to learn how to say ‘Sorry.’
4) I promise to eventually take the bins out, and at only the third time of asking.
You’ll probably notice that these aren’t the most hilarious one-liners you’ve ever read. That’s because it’s surprisingly difficult to come up with something funny that’s snappy, relatable, and appropriate to a wedding. Run your ideas past someone before you run with them, otherwise something that you find funny might fall flat.
If you do want to write funny wedding vows, use them sparingly. Don’t write a five-minute long stand-up routine! Pepper your vows with one or two funny ones. This maximises the effect of the funny ones by placing them alongside more serious ones. It also allows you breathing room, in which you can be serious for just a moment!
Whatever you decide to write in the end, it should be unmistakably you. Perhaps one of the ideas above fits you like a glove, in which case you can build your vows around it. Failing that, hopefully you can at least pick a category and use these ideas as inspiration. So long as your husband- or wife-to-be likes what you write, that’s all that matters!