What Should You Plan First For a Wedding?
So now your engaged what should you plan first for your wedding? Below is a simple guide to help you with the planning process. A wedding is a massive commitment. There are lots of things to plan, people to talk to, things to pay for or buy… So what should you plan first for a wedding?
Two main things you should think of first are your budget and your theme. Without these, you can’t plan nothing else, so decide this first. Next think about the colour scheme for your wedding and who should be on the guest list. Finally, you should pick a location for the ceremony and for the reception.
The trick is to break everything down into small chunks. Bit by bit, you can get through this difficult process!
After that, you can start thinking about actually getting the ball rolling by sending out send the dates, invitations with RSVPs and so on. Then it’s only a few small steps to your big day.
Step 1: How Much Should You Spend on a Wedding?
The first thing you plan should be how much you spend on your wedding. This, of course, is entirely up to you, you can opt for a big blow-out wedding, or a tiny registry office affair if you like. Don’t let anyone else guide your plans because if there’s one day in your life that should be all about you then it’s your wedding day.
Consider where the money will come from. If you have some savings built up how much of your hoard would you like to spend on your wedding? How much will your parents and in-laws be willing to contribute? Add everything up and see what you have to play with.
Something that a lot of people do is borrow money for their wedding day. That could be in the form of a loan from the bank or it could be as simple as putting many of the expenses on a credit card. While this is possible it’s not a wise financial decision.
How you choose to plan out your spending is up to you, but you should track what you spend in some way. This will stop the cost of your wedding from getting out of control. Some ideas for basic money management ideas include:
• Putting all of the money into one bank account, and only spending the money from that account on wedding-related things
• Making a basic spreadsheet tracking what you spent, and where you spent it
• Downloading one of many money management apps for your smartphone
However you choose to do it, doesn’t matter—so long as it’s done!
Step 2: What Theme Should My Wedding Be?
With your savings figured out, the next step is to think about your theme. The theme is a different thing to colour: so, you might have a nautical theme, or an outdoors theme, or a Wild West theme (if you fancy it).
The theme of your wedding should be personal to you. It should be something that speaks to you, and means a lot to you. Again, this is your day, so it’s important that it suits you in every way. In that sense, the theme really could be anything.
Talk with your partner about what themes they’re comfortable with too. Come to some kind of agreement, then you can start planning what your wedding ceremony and reception will look like.
And remember, there’s nothing wrong with not having a noticeable theme to your wedding. You can have a nice, normal, traditional wedding, there’s nothing wrong with that. But again, you have to decide on that before moving forward to the next steps.
Step 3: What Colour Should My Wedding Be?
Now, it’s time to think about the colour of your big day. The colour touches on everything: your outfit, the outfits of the bridesmaids and ushers, the decorations for both the ceremony and the reception… There’s nothing that isn’t affected by the colour you choose for your wedding. So, this is something you have to decide early on.
Again, the colour can be something meaningful for you. Many couples pick colours based on the football teams they support, for example. Or, perhaps your favourite colour has been the same since your earliest memories. If that’s the case, and you’re both comfortable with the choice, choose it!
Alternatively, pick a colour combination just because it looks good. Certain colours go together well, like yellow and grey. There are plenty of blogs out there dedicated to picking colours for a wedding, so research is easy.
When picking a colour, bear in mind everywhere that it will be. If it will clash with the bride’s eyes or the groom’s hair, for example, then it might be better to pick something else. Plus, remember that not everything looks the same in real life as it does on a screen!
Step 4: Who to Invite to Your Wedding
Next is one of the most important questions for most wedding planners: who’s coming, and who isn’t?
It’s at this point that you realise the importance of figuring out your budget first. The number of guests you invite is one of the key determinants of how much your wedding day will cost. Extra heads mean extra meals, extra drinks and bigger venues. So, choose carefully who to invite and who to send photos to afterwards!
At this point, the list doesn’t have to be exhaustive, and you don’t need to invite everyone you initially think you will. All that you’re doing is getting an idea of how many people will be there. This will let you move onto the next step, which is…
Step 5: Where to Hold Your Wedding
This step is one of the most difficult to take, if not the hardest entirely. Finding the perfect venue isn’t easy, because:
• Your favourite venue may not be available for the date you want to get married
• Your favourite venue may not have enough seats available for you
• Your favourite venue may be too far away for most of the guests to attend
• What’s your favourite venue, may be a place that your partner hates
Consider casting your net quite wide. Country houses and hotels, fancy registry offices, old renovated barns, castles, sporting venues and more are all potential ‘destinations’. Your theme may lend itself to a particular kind of venue, in which case that will narrow down your shortlist considerably. You should also consider travel: is there suitable parking for the number of guests? Are there taxi services nearby?
Then, you also have to consider where to hold your reception. Again, this should be somewhere that’s easily accessible, and that has lots of parking. It also shouldn’t be too far from where the ceremony is being held; and if you picked a country house or hotel for your ceremony, then you may even be able to eat there.
Step 6: …Everything Else
Once you’ve finished each of these steps, it’s time to start organising the wedding proper. With your venues booked, you can send out save-the-dates so that your guests know when you’ll be holding your ceremony. To follow later are invitations and RSVPs, to formally invite everybody to your wedding.
In the meantime, you can organise everything else: the flowers, the caterer, the transport (e.g. a minibus), the hotel for the wedding night, your honeymoon, and everything else that comes with having a wedding. Oh, and the dress or suit you’ll be wearing for your big day! Mustn’t forget that!