Just got engaged? Hoorah! It’s time to celebrate and show off that new shiny, sparkly rock. Who do you call first? Mum or Dad? Best friend or Brother? Phew… Done, done, done. Now what?
After all the initial excitement has run its course you may be feeling just a tad lost at what to do next. Don’t worry! This is totally normal. Even if you’ve been planning your dream wedding since you were six, there will always be the initial err… umhh… umm. To take a load of your mind here are 15 things to do in the first few months after you’re engaged.
1. Get Your Ring Insured.
Hey, we get it – insurance can be expensive. However in the many months running up to your wedding and the many activities that will be sweeping you off your feet, losing THE ring is the last stress you want occupying your mind. Get insurance and wear that sparkling beauty with pride (and peace of mind).
2. Time for a Manicure.
This shouldn’t take too much convincing. The weeks and months after your engagement is stressful enough as it is — don’t put yourself under more pressure by showing off your new rock with cracked nails or calluses. Smile and show off that pretty little ring with pride.
3. Get Appy!
Are we living in the future or are we living in the future? Apps that can literally plan a wedding for us? Bingo! When Mum was planning her wedding I bet she had to wait till she was home to consult a planning diary. Nuh-uh, no more. Now, with our clever little iPhone’s we can plan on the go. Download, Update, Go!
4. Plan a Holiday.
Do not…and we repeat…do not jump straight into planning a wedding. Trust us when we say ‘this will be one of the most testing and stressful times of your life’. Take a week or two away. Enjoy each other, relax in your new found engagement and, of course, knock back a few (or more) cocktails. You’ll also be pretty poor very soon, so enjoy your last holiday for a year or two!
5. The in-laws-to-be.
Has Dad shared a drink with his Dad? Your Mum gossiped with his Mum? No?! Don’t do anything out of the ordinary. Just an evening meal, in a neutral location, accompanied by a few drinks. They don’t need to become BFFs, they just need to be acquainted and, at best, exchanging phone numbers.
6. A Date with the Maid.
No one likes a cranky bride, but it happens. Your maid of honour is going to bear the brunt of ‘tensions’ that will be running high over the coming months. Take your maid of honour out for a few drinks, just you and her, and talk.
7. A Date with the Mother-in-Law.
The last thing you want for your wedding is for there to be a silly family quarrel preceding your big day. Pull on your ‘game face’, take the in-laws out for lunch and be on your best behaviour. Not only do you get the chance to lay down a few ground rules, but getting to know your future Mother-in-law never hurts.
8. Hit the Gym!
Get your workout routine started. Don’t do anything extreme (no 100 calorie diets and 10 mile runs nuh-uh) or push yourself too hard, just get down to the gym, take a few rumba classes and start getting into a weekly routine. You want to set yourself up for the next 6 months so PUSH!
9. Start saving.
Still eating out for lunch? Time for pack-lunches. Head to Costa or Starbucks before the train every morning? Time to take a home brew. Still smoking 20 a day? Time to quit. A year is 365 days, so savings each day can help contribute in a big way to your wedding. Plus, you don’t want to be the Bride who’s coughing down the aisle. Start small today!
10. Google Drive
Ok, so now you’re officially saving it’s time to start thinking about planning this wedding. By far the most helpful tool you will ever have in your planning locker will be Google drive. All your documents in one secure, easy to access place which is easy to share and updates instantly? Yes please! Start with our Budget Planner Doc…
11. Set a Month.
Summer bride? Winter bride? Spring Bride? Set a month or time of year early. Attempt to get as close to your ideal date as possible, but don’t put too much pressure on it. Just think of sweet days that mean oh-so much to both of you, or ‘real weddings’ that truly inspire you. Plus, once you have a date you can book a venue.
12. Book a Venue
Right… so it’s starting to kinda get official. Again, we get it. Booking things like a venue may seem a little premature in the first 3 to 6 months of your engagement, but booking early can a) Ensure you get the venue you really desire b) Ensure you get the date you’re really after, and finally c) Help make the rest of planning experience sooo much easier.
Booking earlier makes questions like:
How many guests shall we have at the ceremony?
What is our overall budget?
So. Much. Easier!
13. Settle on a Colour or a Theme.
At some point you just need to MAKE A DECISION. Start discussing your theme early. Pin your fave images, pick up magazines and browse your favourite wedding blogs. We’re sure you’ll find something that captures your heart quickly. Still struggling? Take our colour theme quiz.
14. Round 1 with the Guest List.
Ready for the fight of your life? Just like a boxer, training for this fight early is going to serve you better later on. Take a moment, draft some names and pass on to the H2B. Round 2 – send a draft to the parents… Ding Ding Ding!
15. Book a Photographer and Other Confirmed Vendors Early
No doubt your wedding day remains planted firmly in the far far, faaaarrrr away future. A year or two years may seem like a faraway land, but here’s a tip from the pro’s; save £££’s by booking early. Get your 2015 or 2016 photographer at 2014 rates. Ka-ching!
Do you agree? We’d love to know what the first thing you did was after getting engaged!